Dr. John Demartini, a renowned human behavior expert, shares his insights on emotional intelligence and self-mastery. He emphasizes the importance of living according to our highest values and prioritizing our actions accordingly. Dr. Demartini explains that emotional intelligence is the ability to govern our emotions and see both sides of a situation objectively. He encourages individuals to ask empowering questions and challenge their interpretations of reality. By doing so, we can develop our executive function and achieve self-mastery. Dr. Demartini also discusses the role of resilience and training in mastering emotional intelligence.
Tim Whitmire, co-founder of F3 Nation, shares his journey and the principles behind F3. Tim talks about his work as a leadership coach, helping teams align their objectives and work together effectively. He emphasizes the importance of having a clear vision and mission, as well as a strong team dynamic, in order to achieve success. Tim also discusses how F3 is a national network of peer-led workouts for men that focuses on fitness, fellowship, and faith. He explains how F3 started as a small workout group and grew into a movement with thousands of participants across the US and other countries. The key to F3's success is the sense of community and friendship that develops among the participants. Tim also emphasizes the importance of personal growth and making a positive impact in the world. He discusses the importance of creating a welcoming and inclusive environment in both personal and professional settings. He shares his experience with F3, a men's workout group that focuses on fitness, fellowship, and faith, and how it fosters a sense of community and support.
In this episode of the Emotional Intelligence podcast, Ismail Qadry & Sameer Aleem explore the intricate balance between asserting authority and maintaining emotional intelligence as a leader. They share personal experiences and insights into the challenges of leadership, discussing how to lead effectively without being overbearing. The importance of clear communication, the power of understanding and explaining the "why" behind tasks, and the need to set boundaries and expectations while still being empathetic and supportive. Whether you're a new manager or a seasoned leader, this episode provides valuable advice on navigating the complexities of leadership with emotional intelligence.
Jasmine Kafka, a seasoned leadership coach, shares her approach to fostering resilient and engaging cultures. She emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and thought leadership in empowering professionals and teams to reach their highest potential. Jasmine works with individual leaders and small teams, helping them overcome barriers, improve communication, and build collaboration. She believes in creating a culture by design rather than by default and encourages leaders to involve their teams in shaping the culture. Jasmine also highlights the significance of vulnerability, mindfulness, and authentic conversations in building a positive work culture.
In Episode 40, Ismail and Sameer explore the balance that leaders need to strike between helping their team members improve and knowing when to let go. It emphasizes the importance of investing time in employee development while also being willing to make tough decisions when necessary.
The conversation highlights the need for leaders to assess whether performance issues are due to a lack of skill or will, and to provide appropriate training and support. It also discusses the impact of poor performers on team morale and the importance of clear expectations and accountability. The conversation concludes by emphasizing the value of recognizing and leveraging individual strengths.
In Episode 39, Ismail and Sameer had the pleasure of hosting our first repeat guest on The Emotional Intelli-Gents Podcast, David Schectman, a Partner at Evolution. David enlightened the audience with stories from his personal past where his personal belief in being authentic always, ended up hurting others with unintended consequences he never saw coming.
From these experiences, David began to explore the concept of ‘authenticide’, a term David defines as: An ill-timed or ill-conceived act of disclosure that ends a meaningful relationship. Episode 39 will dive deep into ‘authenticide’ seeking to understand what causes it and how to avoid it.
In Episode 38, Ismail and Sameer speak from the heart as they share their personal struggles with stress, anxiety as it relates to work and life. Over the years, the EQ Gents have learned how to manage through these overwhelming emotions and in some cases even used it as fuel for positive outcomes they’ve experienced along the way.
In Episode 37, Ismail and Sameer had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Ron Stotts and learn about his unique approach to bringing the best out of the leaders he works closely with. As a transformational guide, Ron has spent the last five decades exploring the deepest caves and soaring heights of both personal and spiritual journeys. As a former Executive VP at AT&T, Ron left with a mission to develop leaders who did not fall victim to fear-based culture which caused them to play small and limit their lives. Ron has supported thousands of people on their journey as they’ve confronted and overcome their most difficult challenges and developed their greatest potential.
Summary:
In Episode 36, Ismail and Sameer take on a question many managers are asking themselves these days… “Are the younger members of our workforce more susceptible to getting their feelings hurt than generations past?” The answer is likely yes. This episode will take a deep dive into why this may be the case. And how developing our non-verbal communication and EQ skills will be the ticket to improving how messages can be better delivered and received by the Gen Z workforce.
Topics:
Setting the stage by asking the question are our younger workers offended more easily?
Factors contributing to generational sensitivities
The impact of social media and digital communication
Seeking mentorship for perspective and guidance
Improving communication to facilitate greater understanding
Acknowledging the complexity and inviting feedback
Not asking the in service of what question can lead to Authenticide, which can end relationships for a period of time or forever.
“Since taking on this new role, I’ve been overwhelmed and have had to let a lot of things go. Sorry for not getting back to you sooner. I’ll let you know if I want to set a time to talk.”
As I read this email I could feel the author’s anger and sense his frustration. This highly polite and respectful email reply was papering over the fact that I had really stepped in it. I had turned his recent promotion into an opportunity to ring the cash register, as opposed to a celebration of his accomplishments.
My client was recently appointed to the role of his dreams. He had worked decades…
Not asking the in service of what question can lead to Authenticide, which can end relationships for a period of time or forever.
“Since taking on this new role, I’ve been overwhelmed and have had to let a lot of things go. Sorry for not getting back to you sooner. I’ll let you know if I want to set a time to talk.”
As I read this email I could feel the author’s anger and sense his frustration. This highly polite and respectful email reply was papering over the fact that I had really stepped in it. I had turned his recent promotion into an opportunity to ring the cash register, as opposed to a celebration of his accomplishments.
My client was recently appointed to the role of his dreams. He had worked decades…
In today's fast-paced world, achieving peak performance is not just desirable but often essential for personal and professional success. Performance science, a multidisciplinary field that incorporates insights from psychology, sociology, business, physiology, and neurology, offers actionable principles that can significantly enhance one's ability to perform at their best.
In the challenging arena of workplace dynamics, emotionally intelligent leaders who excel in empathetic listening hold a definitive edge when managing or collaborating with difficult coworkers. This edge is not just about navigating through day-to-day interactions but fundamentally transforming potential conflicts into cooperative relationships. This post explores how leaders who blend emotional intelligence with empathetic skills can foster a more harmonious and productive work environment.
Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions in oneself and others. In a leadership context, EI is invaluable as it enhances one’s capacity to manage relationships judiciously and empathetically. An emotionally intelligent leader …
The ability of leaders and managers to foster innovative, responsive, and dynamic environments is paramount. However, an often-overlooked impediment to achieving these goals is the prevalence of auto-pilot thinking traps among leaders. This phenomenon, characterized by a reliance on habitual, uncritical, and automatic decision-making processes, can significantly undermine the effectiveness of leadership and, by extension, the potential of the organizations they lead.
In the vast expanse of human psychology, self-sabotage emerges as a complex barrier to personal growth, happiness, and success. This behavioral pattern, where individuals consciously or unconsciously undermine their own progress, can be perplexing and frustrating. As experts in Emotional Intelligence (EI), we recognize that the root of self-sabotage often lies in a lack of self-awareness and the dominance of inner critics, or "self-saboteurs". Understanding these saboteurs and leveraging EI can pave the way for overcoming these self-imposed obstacles.
In the complex world of leadership and decision-making, understanding the interplay between the cognitive and emotional aspects of the brain is essential. This knowledge is not just academic; it directly impacts a leader's effectiveness in navigating the challenges of their role. The cognitive brain focuses on logical reasoning, analytical thinking, and problem-solving, while the emotional brain deals with feelings, instincts, and emotions. Balancing these two facets is crucial for leaders aiming to make informed, empathetic, and impactful decisions. This blog post delves into the distinctions between the cognitive and emotional brains, their relationship with emotional intelligence, and why their balance is pivotal in leadership decision-making.
In a world where the echoes of slavery's brutal legacy still reverberate, the journey towards healing and empowerment for the Black community is both urgent and essential. Central to this journey is the cultivation of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, a transformative process that a Black female leadership coach, whom we'll refer to as Coach Taylor, passionately advocates for. Coach Taylor's insights offer a beacon of hope and a roadmap for addressing the profound traumas that slavery has imprinted on generations.
In leadership, two emotional perspectives often emerge as guiding forces: idealism and optimism. Both play critical roles in shaping a leader's vision, approach, and effectiveness in steering their teams toward success. Emotional Intelligence, particularly awareness of self and others can be a key component for employing idealism and optimism properly. The profound impact these emotional perspectives can have on leadership styles, team dynamics, and organizational outcomes. Balancing idealism and optimism is not just beneficial; it's critical for leading teams optimally in today's complex, fast-paced work environments.
In today's rapidly evolving corporate landscape, leaders are frequently tested by unforeseen crises. However, these challenges offer unique opportunities for growth in emotional intelligence (EI), a critical component of effective leadership. This post explores how past crises can be transformative tools for developing a more emotionally intelligent leadership style.
Before delving into how crises shape EI, it's essential to understand what EI in leadership entails. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions and the emotions of others. For leaders, this means being empathetic, self-aware, and skilled in handling interpersonal dynamics.
1. Reflecting on Past Crises for Self-Awareness
Every crisis is a repository of lessons. Reflect on past situations where you faced significant challenges. What emotions did you experience? How did you react? Self-awareness is the first step in EI.
In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff discusses the importance of self-compassion, particularly in the context of burnout. She shares her personal journey and how her experiences shaped her understanding of self-compassion. The conversation explores various aspects of self-compassion, including its role in managing stress, the significance of common humanity, and the challenges faced by caregivers. Dr. Neff also introduces the concept of 'backdraft' in self-compassion, emphasizing the need for a gentle approach to healing. The episode concludes with insights on the diverse approaches to self-compassion and the importance of self-care.